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How I Quit Smoking

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“I am not a smoker,” I would often hear myself say in defense. The truth was, by definition, I suppose I was in fact a “light smoker” {or at least that’s what this article claims}. I wouldn’t smoke every day, but if you found me out and about at night chances were I had a secret cigarette or two {or three} stashed in my bag. It wasn’t a habit that I truly took seriously because I figured, ‘What’s one or two cigarettes a couple times a week?’ I really didn’t think it was a true problem until I would wake up with a violent headache nearly every morning asking myself “Why?”

Let’s get real: I didn’t quit smoking because of all of the obvious reasons. But I’ll list a few here just to refresh your memory:

  • My chances of having cancer, heart attacks, heart disease, stroke, cataracts, and other diseases will go down.
  • I will breathe easier and cough less.
  • My blood pressure will go down.
  • My skin will look healthier and I will look more youthful.
  • My teeth and fingernails will not be stained.
  • My car‚ home‚ and kids won’t smell like smoke.
  • It kills you.

The truth is, I really wanted to quit. It was just a really bad habit that I felt in my heart that I wanted to ditch. I couldn’t figure out why on Earth I would instinctively reach for a cigarette after 2 drinks and why I couldn’t just stop. Why was it so hard? After months of trying every trick in the book {I watched YouTube videos on quitting, hypnotism, asking friends to help} I then resorted to prayer.

Shortly after, in December 2015, I found myself in Aspen with the family. It was positively freezing out, but that didn’t stop me from stepping out aprés-ski for a quick cig. Finally, one day I woke up to my prayers answered. I had an awful rash on my cheeks. I didn’t immediately assume that it was from smoking. I thought it was just dry skin from the altitude. So I went and got a hydrating facial from the spa in Aspen and that was when the esthetician asked if I was a smoker. “No! I mean, kind of. I mean, I only have like 1 cigarette a day, if that!” She immediately responded that it was from smoking.

My stubborn self still didn’t believe her. I didn’t have cigarettes for 2 days, the rash went away. The next night I had 1 cigarette and the very next morning the rash on my cheeks had returned. It is baffling to me that this was what it took for me to finally ditch the habit. Without thinking twice, I quit. It wasn’t hard, it wasn’t torturous nor was it really even that big of a deal. But it took literally wearing my lungs on my face to finally see and feel the true damage that smoking was doing to my body.

I realize that I am extremely lucky, and that smoking is a very serious habit for so many people to kick. I just wanted to finally open up to this secret that I’ve been hiding for so many years which is that I am was a smoker. I found this article about 23 Ways to Quit Smoking pretty interesting.

Do any of you smoke? Have you quit? Share your secrets in the comments below!

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  • Amanda Howard

    This is such an incredible post! I’m not a smoker & never have been but I still think this post is fantastic! Thanks for sharing!

  • melanie carter

    This is a great post! I am not a smoker, but quite a few family members and friends of mine are. I like the fact that you acknowledged how God had answered your prayers, which He always does once you turn to HIM. I will definitely share this post with my friends. Very inspirational.

  • This goes to show with a vision and determination, anything can be possible. It truly takes time and lots of efforts but you did it! Loving ourselves is the most magical thing we can do, and that you have also proven. So very proud to hear about this little winning story. A big conquer in life! 🙂
    Such a wonderful post.

    💋LA BIJOUX BELLA💋 | BY MIA | A Creative Lifestyle Blog

  • Rach

    Wow, I didn’t even know smoking can cause rashes. Glad that you saw it was an issue and worked on it!

  • great post! Thanks for sharing

  • Class Versus Sass

    Not a smoker…but glad you quit

  • Dana Mannarino

    To be honest, I’ve never picked up a cigarette in my life. That’s due to the fact that my nanny passed away from emphysema at 60 years old (a terrible, terrible thing to watch at a young age) and because of my dad. He’s been smoking since he was 12 years old (he’s in his late 60s now). Last year, my dad was diagnosed with Stage II bladder cancer (direct cause of smoking) and it was one of the scariest things EVER. He went through 3 rounds of 8 hour chemotherapy sessions and LUCKILY, he is in remission. Guess what? My dad STILL smokes. He’s an idiot, we tell him that constantly. He’s tried to quit more times than I can count, but it just doesn’t work for him. The scariest thing ever would be losing my dad to cancer because of that horrible habit. I try to tell anyone and everyone who will listen that they need to quit smoking. Even my boyfriend was like you and realistically only smoked when he was drinking or just itching for an oral fixation. He had thyroid cancer a few years ago and every time he even thinks about picking up a cigarette, I want to slap him!

    I appreciate you telling your story, I believe your opinion seriously influences people – even if you get ONE person to quit, I think that’s huge!

    Pink Champagne Problems

    • Jacey

      Thank you so much Dana. It’s refreshing to hear people open up about their stories and I really appreciate you making time to do so here. xx

  • I remember in one of your videos a few years ago, doing a house tour and the interviewer saw that you had cigarettes on display on your patio and she asked if you were a smoker. the camera could tell that that was the last question that you expected to hear, and you shyly responded, “no…well, socially, from time to time.” It’s brave to admit it to your readers, it makes it more real! Whenever darkness is brought to light, it there isn’t any room for it to return. Good for you!

    • Jacey

      Ha! Chelsea… I remember that. I was like “oh crap… they’re busting me!” 🙂

  • Marla

    I smoked for many years and finally quit 35 years ago through Smokenders, a program that has disappeared I think. The program addressed the patterns of your smoking and broke them which was the key for me. Even though I have sometimes thought a cigarette would taste good I refrained as I never want to be a smoker again.

  • Such a great post! I’ve never been a smoker (social or otherwise) but can totally understand how hard it can be to quit, especially when you don’t do it on the regular.

    PS there’s a small typo in the second paragraph, it should be “quit” not “quick” 🙂

    • Jacey

      Ooh! Thank you Charlotte!

  • I picked up the habit when I was in hair school/right after high school, and I was luckily able to quit cold turkey once I realized it was literally just a habit (smoking at the same point in my daily drive, every single day) and not something I enjoyed at all. Congrats on quitting!

  • Miriam

    I’m so happy that you quit smoking!!!! The first time I met you at an LA event you were smoking haha.
    I was a chain smoker for almost 6 years and i quit cold turkey when my niece was born– i never ever wanted her to smell that on me which was a huge motivation for me to quit– and now i HATE second hand smoke and I hate the smell of smoke. even after 10+ years I still get urges after meals or when I’m out and about but it’s easier to fight off the cravings. Congrats to you! <3

    • Jacey

      Thank you so much Miriam ~ So much has changed for me since then! I appreciate your sweet words <3

  • I think we can succeed only in something that we actually want

  • Felecia Monique

    Omg! Today is my day one of quitting and this resonated so closely to my own habit. Not an everyday thing I don’t even buy packs but it’s a habit nonetheless. Wish me luck!!

  • Mary Katherine

    i used to do the same – always have 1 or 2 while drinking (sometimes more if it was one of those nights)…and i finally got really sick, sinus infection, bronchitis and killer ear infections – the doctor said it was mostly to blame on the smoking. now i can’t even smell them!

    thanks for sharing 🙂


  • I used to be a smoker too but my addiction was horrible! I used to smoke a pack and half a day and I’m so glad this is finally behind me!

  • Thanks for being so honest and sharing your journey with smoking. I have been an on again / off again smoker for a lot of years and have always found it hard to stick to my guns about quitting once a glass or two of wine is involved… When I feel the urge now I just remind myself ‘I don’t do that anymore’. It feels good to be off them now and I’m glad to hear you are too! Go us! 🙂 Gigi x

  • Lauren Murphy

    And this is WHY everyone loves you! Thank you for the random albeit sweet post about what many of us can relate to as habit as all would like to ignore, smoking. I, myself have never considered myself a smoker. I love working out, am healthy, eat great and yet after a few drinks I always find myself outside with a cig in hand. I’d like to believe I smoke because of the social atmosphere around it, group of friends, great conversation, etc. Yet now that I look back, most of the time, I’m alone and what fun is that while all my nonsmoker friends and family are inside enjoying themselves. Such an unnecessary habit that has to be given the boot. I’d like to start day one smoke-free today. Thank you!

  • KathyK

    Good for you! Great decision! And thanks for being so open and sharing that with all of us! You are awesome and that’s why I follow your blog! Keep up the great work!

  • Thank you for sharing this! It is so important for people to see different experiences related to smoking and shift their image of what “a smoker” looks like. Good for you!

  • Devon Foster

    Jacey!! You are such an inspiration, thank you for being so honest and open. Its hard to change any lifestyle and this just proves you are human like the rest of us, a more stylish human.. but human. 🙂
    My Fiance smokes cigs and I’m trying to get him to quit.. I’m sending him your post. ty-Devon

  • i smoked like a rebellious teenage in middle/high school briefly but was against it after that…until i married a casual smoker. his casual smoking eventually rubbed off on me & then turned into more. we smoked about a pack a day (& our family never even knew for years) until we both quit 5 years ago. fast forward a year & our dog died. i had a very hard time with her death & picked up smoking again. i was able to quit again for about 6 months until i started casually smoking when i would have drinks. i was actually able to keep it that way for over a year but gradually, i started smoking more. i still smoke & i still don’t smoke as many as i used to & i’ve still never told my parents that i started smoking again. it’s unreal to me that it’s been 4 years.

    anyway, good for you! as anyone who has been a smoker knows, it’s never easy & it’s different for everyone.

  • Congrats on making the decision to quit! My dad chews tobacco and has tried to quit several time. He says he’s going to try again soon so fingers crossed it works this time. I’m not a smoker and I’ve never even tried a cigarette, but my husband, like you, was a casual smoker when I met him. Before he even asked me on our first date, I told him I wouldn’t date him if he smoked, so he quit. Luckily he doesn’t have an addictive personality so it was really easy for him to give it up.

  • Kim Pincombe-Cole

    Congrats on quitting! I quit in January of last year. I used the Nicotrol inhaler. It helped tremendously with my need to keep my hands busy while quitting…

  • The Gold Lipstick

    Absolutely love it!

    Mireia from TGL

  • Clo Jardin

    Congrats on quiting. This is a great decision. Maybe that could be hard at the beggining but then no smoking will be a habit 😉 I was a smoker too, everyday I wanted to stop but when you love coffee and a good glass of wine, it’ terrible. So I started to stop coffee and wine. Cigarette followed. Thank you for sharing. Hope you will feel better now 🙂 xx

  • Beautiful and from your heart as always.

  • Gisel Luna

    Congrats 👏🏻👏🏻 I was also a light smoker and officially quit last year. It was just time to quit – plus I started developing migraines from the smell, and my uncle passed because of it. So glad you shared your journey 🙂

    Gisel |

  • lexi

    I love the honesty of this post and congrats on quitting! You’re doing SO much good for yourself.
    xx Lexi, Glitter, Inc.

  • Congratulations, Jacy!!! It’s not easy to quit any habit, especially one as addictive as smoking. And it’s equally not easy to share with the huge, sometimes scary internet so I really admire you for that. You’re a role model to many– who knows how many people you inspired to quit too!

    I was a light smoker for years myself and was fortunate enough to quit by semi-accident. My husband and I had fallen on tough financial times and moved into his dad’s mountaintop NC vacation house for a couple months. (My husband works from home and I wasn’t working at the time.) Between isolation–i.e. never hitting the bars– and the fact that I knew it wouldn’t help my skin (the reason I wasn’t working is because I’m a model and had a bout of TERRIBLE acne for almost a year) I ended up quitting pretty easily. So my story is similar!

    It’s funny how we sometimes don’t think about our interior until motivated by our exterior. However, as I continue to get older, I do find myself getting (somewhat…lol) better about that!

    Happy Friday!

    Xx Maya from Maya Unmarketed

  • Wow, good for you Jacey! That’s so crazy how it affected your skin so quickly.
    I really enjoyed ready your story, I’m sure many of us can relate!!

  • Chelsea

    this was me for about 5 years!! My husband is a smoker and right before we started dating I started socially smoking because it made me feel good with a few drinks, or a stress reliever. But I always felt sick the next day! That didn’t stop me for years though. It was only when we got serious about conceiving that I decided I had to stop once and for all. It’s still hard after a few drinks, but getting easier. way to go!

  • Janie

    i did smoke when i was younger. I found once id made the decision to stop, it was easy.
    I suppose old Hollywood stars inspired it and i even thought it glamerous because of this.
    Its not glamerous at all !
    it is disgusting! it stinks and it will kill you in insidious ways and its not half as enjoyable as having an occassional cheeky piece of cake or nice glass of fizz!
    (theyre bad for you too right? lol!)

  • Janie

    funny that michael jacksons the man in the mirror is playing on the radio as i typed that comment!

  • Good for you! I’ve never been a smoker, but I know it can be SO hard to kick the habit – it truly is an addiction. When we first started dating, my now-fiance learned that my dad had died of lung cancer from smoking. He quit the next day, cold turkey, & never picked it up again. He had been a pack-and-a-half-a-day smoker, & I never even knew. He quit just because of my dad. Unbelievable.

  • Em

    I smoked consistently while in college at parties, study breaks, etc. I moved to Hawaii shortly after I graduated and I quit cold turkey once I got off that plane and smelled that air. The steap price over there helped too. Thanks for sharing this.