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8 Ways to make Friendships Last

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A popular question I get asked a lot is how I maintain strong relationships with my girlfriends. Once you get married, have babies, expand your career, etc… it seems to get more and more difficult to make time for the important friends in your life who you’ve had for years. Ashley Fultz is one of the first gal pals I made when I moved to Los Angeles and after 10 years, we still remain very near and dear. On a recent trip to my favorite lunch spot Culina in the Four Seasons Beverly Hills, Ash and I toasted to our long lasting friendship and came up with a list of 8 tips we think make it work.

1. Make a Plan

Ashley and I will always map out when we are going to see each other sometimes months in advance. No matter what, we stick to the plan and do our best not to cancel. This helps to build accountability and set a routine. We do not put pressure on each other to hang out more than our schedule will permit. So when the date finally rolls around, I am beyond excited to catch up.

2. Follow Up

If your girlfriend shares an important Dr’s appointment, family event or special date that she is looking forward to, set a reminder in your calendar to send her a sweet text to let her know you are thinking of her. I have birthday’s, anniversaries and all sorts of reminders on my calendar so I do not forget special moments in my friends lives.

3. Be social on social

When you can’t be arm and arm with your best friends every day of the week, use social media to your advantage. Leave supporting comments and engage on their social media channels to help tie over communication until the next time you are together.

4. Don’t sweat it

Don’t sweat over small insignificant things. After college it felt like my friends and I started to grow apart. Tiny things like not texting on a birthday really shouldn’t make or break your friendship at this point. Just keep in mind that people’s lives get very busy and if you are hurt by something your friend does the best thing you can do is to be upfront, honest, and move on.

See the other 4 on Ashley’s blog, The Style Editrix.

How do you keep your friendships going strong? Leave a comment below.



Photos by Valerie Darling

0 Leave a Comment May 9, 2017
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  • Beautiful tips on maintaining a good friendship! 🙂
    Merci for sharing.

    🌸LA BIJOUX BELLA 🌸| By Mia | A Creative Lifestyle Blog

  • Natali

    True and long friendships are almost non existing nowadays, but those that do survive time and changes, they are usually tight relationships which will last for a lifetime.
    Great post!

  • Molly O’Connor

    Love the tip about not sweating the small things. I agree that it should not make or break a friendship at this point!

  • Rach

    These are great tips! Long lasting friendships are rare. Making plans to see each other and not sweating the small stuff is definitely key to why my friendships last!

  • Oh heyyyy Ashley! Love this post! Ashley is SUCH a sweetie, had the pleasure of meeting her on several media trips and you are so lucky to call her a great friend.

    xo Jessica

    My Style Vita

  • The Gold Lipstick

    Absolutely love it!!

    Mireia from TGL

  • These are such fabulous tips! I think all of these tips are so accurate and important as well! I totally agree with the fact that you need to follow up but you also have to let the little things go and it’s so important to be really supportive of your closest friends in all the things they do!


  • Such a cute post! Love these tips!

  • Alyssa

    I love this post!! Thanks for sharing your tips 🙂

  • kara

    I completely agree with #4. And the whole post really. The older we get the more complicated our lives are and to expect to have the same amount of face to face time with the friends we spent so much time with in our younger years is just not realistic. Cherish the time you can spend together even if it is just for a quick coffee or some texting to keep in touch on a day to day level. Since I do not have children, I am always trying to make it easier on my friends who do to see them since I have more free time in general. It is not easy to feel like you are growing apart – in reality there just is never enough time. I am sure for those with kids it is even more true.

  • Holly Gery

    Great post! I find that I feel connected with my friends through social media. Especially since our schedules are so busy and we don’t have much time to hang out, at least I know what they’re up to!
    xo, Holly

  • Yes! Amazing post!! Your copy is always so intriguing and unique. Thanks so much for sharing!!


    Amber |

  • Brewing Up Style

    I love the tip about setting reminders in your phone. I definitely need to utilize this more to remember birthdays and special events. Great post!

    – Katie

  • Louis Dupond

    Very interesting article and lovely pictures 😉 Thanks for sharing!

  • Dana Mannarino

    So sweet, love these tips!

    Pink Champagne Problems

  • Jennifer Wilson

    I think this post is one of my favorites! I couldn’t agree more with these tips. xx

  • These are great tips! My husband is in the military so I’ve moved away from most of my old friends. Thank goodness for social media and FaceTime!

    Treats and Trends

  • Love the dress and the tips are great!

  • Kay Nguyen

    Looks like such a great lunch time with your friend! Love this post <3

  • Double trouble! Love this post, it can be hard, I move around a lot, so that’s add up, but putting things in your calendar and being attentive is a good one!


  • Gina Nelson

    The photographer’s name is Valorie Darling, not Valerie =) love the dress!

  • Vanessa H. Wood

    What a great post! And thank you for introducing me to a new blogger!
    These tips are great, as are Ashley’s tips. Loyalty and communication are key to maintaining friendships, as are making dates with your friends. Thanks for these thoughtful reminders!

  • Salina Mahoney

    Amazing post! I’ve been working on having more stable, prosperous and meaningful girlfriendships in my life. I appreciate this post and appreciate you! Xo.

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